Saturday, July 3, 2010

Prayers for those who are struggling

You've struggled with your loss or losses and the raw gut wrenching emotion it brings

You've struggled with not having your child or children with you everyday on earth

You've struggled with seeing other women pregnant and/or going (or not) to their baby showers

You've struggled being around infants or toddlers as sometimes they remind you of what you are missing

You've struggled with trying to get pregnant naturally or go through IF treatments or go through adoption

You've struggled (if you've gotten pregnant or are adopting now) with wondering if your earthly baby or babies are going to make it or if you will have more angels in Heaven or a failed adoption

You've struggled with guilt and all of the phases of grief over and over and over again

You know this is going to effect you for the rest of your life and will always be on your heart and mind

Etc...Etc...Etc...the list goes on and on

So why should anyone have to struggle through trying to make it again to be earthly parents no matter what the route? Why can't things just be ok? Why can't there be a guarantee, like on a box of brake pads? I'm sorry but my heart is very heavy today and I have to ask God why anymore. I am not super religious but I have my own beliefs. Call me selfish, but I want my friends to be ok and to have their babies on earth, just like I want mine too. So I will cling to hope and pray and ask that you also pray for not just my friends, but for all of us in this community going through every struggle we know all too well. Maybe the key is that we all keep bonding together to form a super alliance...wouldn't super powers be nice right now.

Love, Nan xxx


  1. Absolutely praying.

    And wishing I had superpowers.

  2. Praying and totallly normal! All of it! I often wonder why... I hope that your heart gets lighter... Thinking of you!

  3. We need to all continue to hold eachother up, when one falls. That's the beautiful thing that we all have here in the blog world..... we understand.

    Super powers would be wonderful!

  4. oh Nan, I agree with you..I look at all these pregnant people around me and think 'if only it were just as easy as having a baby, taking it home and keeping it forever' and I love having all of you understand the loss, I am not the only one that looks at a pregnant lady and wonder if she will get to keep it.. or an infant and wonder if it will get sick..its just not right..wishing I had superpowers to make you feel better dear friend..xoxo

  5. Superpowers would be amazing at this point and your right, it shouldnt be this hard. I'm so sorry your heart is heavy today. I'll keep you in my prayers Nan, you are such a sweet woman. (((HUGS)))