Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Tuesday Link Up and Donations to Hospitals

Today is Link Up with Tesha’s Blog Tuesdays! Link up and find or support another grieving parent if you can. It helps so much to know we aren’t alone.

About two years ago on my girls first birthday in Heaven, I was fumbling around a lot trying to figure out what I wanted to do. One of the things I came up with (I think by suggestion of another BLM but I cannot remember, sorry, it was fuzzy back then!) was donating K.leenex tissues to the local hospital I delivered the babies at. I remember my Mom bringing me some soft tissues because the hospital boxes (although helpful and purposeful) were scratching my face from all of the tears and would only last about all of five minutes. I had a few BLM’s contact me via email or this blog saying thank you for the tissues, and it made me feel good that I could help another grieving parent in a small/big way by letting them know they aren’t alone. We also donated them last year as well, but this year we were down the shore over a longer period of time and didn’t get around to it. I was recently contacted by the hospital (I always leave my contact info if they want to ask for more donations) asking if I was still doing this, and if so they could really use them. My heart sank and sung at the same time reading that email, as I could tell there must have been a surge in losses, but at the same time to know that the nurses were using all of these resources to get more comfort to grieving parents, was just bittersweet. So, I will be getting another lot of tissues over there shortly. I also asked what else they could use and I will share once I hear back in case anyone is interested. But if you are thinking of doing something in honor of your baby or babies, and know if your local hospital is in need of something to comfort another bereaved parent, think about contacting the nurse manager in labor and delivery and they may be able to point you in the right direction. Some hospitals aren’t well equipped to handle this, but with your help in donations and/or awareness, no matter how big or small, you can make a difference. I always put a label with my blog link and forum link on the boxes as well, just in case they see it and can find a place to start. When I first lost my girls, writing on my blog was so comforting, along with finding forums and the help of a psychologist, and it stills helps to this day, even though I am not online as much as I would like to be. I don’t even know how I found my way to the internet after such a horrific raw time, but I am forever grateful.

May you have a lovely day, full of love and light. Love, Nan xoxoxo


  1. I love the Kleenex idea...... so beautiful, helping the mother's wipe their tears of loss and love......

  2. What a great idea! I will have to do that, I have been thinking of items to donate. Tenny Tears and Lily wraps are on my list, how sweet to include the Kleenex :) You are one Awesome mommy!

  3. The tissues are a good idea b/c hospital ones are so scratchy!

  4. What a wonderful blessing you have given to the women in need. ((HUGS))

  5. I think this is a great simple, and thoughtful, idea that will be appreciated. I've been working on coming up with donation ideas myself and love this one.

  6. Sweet Friend,

    I am in tears reading your words, as they take me back on our journey of chance meeting...the hurt is still real, I remember all those conversations, sleepless nights and more tears. I wish this weren't so, I wish no one ever had to feel this pain, I wish mama's could just be mama's with babies to stay and grace this earth.

    Keep doing what you are doing....touching lives and helping heal hearts. I love you sweetest friend. <3 <3 <3